Brianna Wiest

@briannawiest

Author of 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think, The Mountain Is You and more. You can find my books below. 🤍
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Every piece of you that hurts is a part of you that wants to be loved but does not know how to ask for it, or how to receive it, or how to allow it to seep into the openings where the losses and the lessons left caverns the size of your hope, your wide-eye awe, your child self, your true self; and in their place left hardness, and avoidance, and cynicism, and fear. When we don’t know how to say that there’s a part of us that wants to be seen, we often find an unconscious way to require that it is noticed. But if we began to recognize the most unseemly parts of ourselves not as the pieces that need to be amended or corrected or rejected — rather, the ones that most need to be nurtured and nourished and loved — we would transform. It would all transform. Every piece of you that hurts is a part of you that is asking you to pay attention to it. By bearing witness, by being present, by spending time. We think that loving something means to be unconditionally permissive when it is often in fact just the willingness to pay attention to the pieces that nobody else notices. To give the light of our awareness in the most tiny, ordinary ways. Everything heals and grows when it is loved well because everything reveals its true and whole nature to us when we care enough about it to see the perfection within it. Things tend to meet us at the level of our expectation of them. When we decide to look at the ugliest parts of ourselves as the ones most deserving of love, they become the avenues to the deepest and fullest experience of being loved. We come to find that the purpose was never to reach a completed state and then allow the floodgates to open; rather, to open the floodgates and let them fill us up from the inside out. To show us that cheap love walks beside us at our easiest, but deep love finds us at our lowest, and brings us back out into the light.
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11个月前
When we find it too difficult to arrive fully into the present moment, it is almost always because the quiet is telling us something we are not yet ready to hear. The longer we avoid looking honestly at ourselves, the louder our inner worlds will become. When we find the courage to look long enough into the eyes of our demons, they dissolve into crying children just asking us to set them free. We don’t need a lot to be happy, but we do need things that are real. We do need things that grip our hearts and enliven us and make us feel like we are here for a reason, here to experience something that could only be touched by a human body, understood by a human mind, loved by a human heart. When we deny ourselves the authentic experience of being alive, we reach for more when what we really want is not to stretch wider, but to go deeper. You don’t have to run forever. The answers you’re looking for have probably been with you all along. The journey has not been about finding that truth, but strengthening your inner resolve to choose what you have always known is right, even if the world would not understand, even if you might disappoint some people, even if it might scare you or challenge you or make you feel vulnerable in a way you never have before. I hope you will discover that making it is not always about where you end up, but how you take each step. When you change your relationship with today, you change your relationship with tomorrow. These words are from my book of daily meditations, The Pivot Year, which will be out next spring. You can pre-order your copy through the link in my bio. I’m sending you all love, and I hope you have a great day.
14.38万 965
1年前
I hope you allow your life to be more than you ever thought it could be. I hope you press back on the limiting thoughts that have made you cling so tightly to the worlds you’ve already outgrown. I hope you will listen to the little calling in your heart that knows what’s really true, even if your mind doesn’t yet understand how it might be possible. I hope you will consider that maybe there’s more available to you than you even know to ask for. I hope you will let yourself be expanded, to see that there are others just like you taking big leaps in the directions you always hoped to go, but have just been waiting on the courage. I hope you will take nothing for granted — no lesson, no person, no place. I hope you will see that everything was a teacher, even the most unlikely of experiences was in some way there to guide to your path. I hope you will have faith in the fact that everything that’s meant for you will find you, remain with you, or return to you, it is only a matter of when. I hope you will realize that when you ask for a bigger experience, you’ll first be handed the lessons that will grow you into the type of person who would have that life you want. I hope you’ll begin to see the purpose in what’s seemed meaningless, I hope you’ll never lose faith that your happy ending is still there, still waiting. I hope you will remember that is no desire that can be within us without an equal amount of potential to make it reality. I hope you will let yourself dream. I hope you will let yourself consider more than you assumed you’d be able to have, not always in scale, but in depth and beauty and truth. I hope you will know that no experience will be wasted. I hope you know it will all eventually add up. Most of all, I hope you will realize that the journey was the becoming, not the arriving. I hope you’ll give yourself the chance to enjoy the journey while you’re still on it.
11.09万 664
9个月前
Maybe right now, you’re alone because whatever you need to learn about yourself can only be learned in solitude. Maybe right now, the pieces of yourself you’re finding are fusing a truer self into form, a kind of self that will become a more clear and recognizable match for the places and people and opportunities that are meant to come your way. Maybe right now, you don’t feel good enough because you’re going to bring someone to the places where you feel the most unworthy and let them love you there. Maybe right now, it’s quiet because you’re learning to hear the sound of your own voice. Maybe right now, you feel stuck because you have tried to force stillness when what you really need is to keep going. Maybe right now, you feel lost because you’re getting a chance to choose something greater than what you once assumed the best could be. Maybe right now, you’re learning to see yourself with kinder eyes. To give yourself the benefit of the doubt. Maybe right now, you’re realizing the value in recognizing how far you’ve come, and allowing that to fuel you forward. Maybe right now, you’re giving yourself more credit. Maybe you’re giving yourself a second chance. Maybe you’re learning how to be with yourself in the quiet hours, the times when you’d rather fill the void with another person’s company. Maybe you’re learning how to enjoy your own presence. Maybe life is trying to show you how taking care of the person you are informs the one you will become. Maybe things are happening just as they need to, even if you don’t understand their sequence, or order, or reason. Maybe all you’re meant to do is take it one day, or even hour at a time. To greet the moment and ask what you should do with it, even if what you should do is sometimes the bare minimum, and sometimes the revolutionary. Maybe this is the time when you make space for all of those pieces of you to come together, to settle in and find their way home. Maybe in the midst of the uncertainty, this is life’s way of making sure you make peace with yourself.
2.58万 291
1天前
Send this to the first person you think of. 🤍 I hope you will take nothing for granted — no lesson, no person, no place. I hope you will see that everything was a teacher, even the most unlikely of experiences was in some way there to guide to your path. I hope you will have faith in the fact that everything that’s meant for you will find you, remain with you, or return to you, it is only a matter of when. I hope you will realize that when you ask for a bigger experience, you’ll first be handed the lessons that will grow you into the type of person who would have that life you want. I hope you’ll begin to see the purpose in what’s seemed meaningless, I hope you’ll never lose faith that your happy ending is still there, still waiting. I hope you allow your life to be more than you ever thought it could be. I hope you press back on the limiting thoughts that have made you cling so tightly to the worlds you’ve already outgrown. I hope you will listen to the little calling in your heart that knows what’s really true, even if your mind doesn’t yet understand how it might be possible. I hope you will consider that maybe there’s more available to you than you even know to ask for. I hope you will let yourself be expanded, to see that there are others just like you taking big leaps in the directions you always hoped to go, but have just been waiting on the courage. I hope you will remember that is no desire that can be within us without an equal amount of potential to make it reality. I hope you will let yourself dream. I hope you will let yourself consider more than you assumed you’d be able to have, not always in scale, but in depth and beauty and truth. I hope you will know that no experience will be wasted. I hope you know it will all eventually add up. Most of all, I hope you will realize that the journey was the becoming, not the arriving. I hope you’ll give yourself the chance to enjoy the journey while you’re still on it.
2.36万 298
1天前
Every time we sink back into our recesses, we reemerge with another part of ourselves that makes us more complete than we were before. That is what the growth process looks like, and that is why the path is meant to be a series of valleys, and peaks. We are not meant to scale to one height and then just stay there forever. We are not meant to disengage with life. Rather, we are meant to find the roads that are most heartfelt to walk upon, the climbs most meaningful to make. We are meant to find the things we are willing to hurt for, willing to try for, to keep working toward. This experience is not meant to be one-dimensional. Every time we are back on the ground, it is because there is a new piece of us asking to be picked up. The mistake we make most often is thinking that there is something wrong with us. That there is something wrong with us for being nervous, or scared. That there is something wrong with us for grieving, or hurting, or feeling waves of pressure and uncertainty and fear out of nowhere. But there is nothing wrong with us. This is how we were designed. To process, to feel. To comprehend all of who we are, both the lighter aspects, and the heavier ones. What you cannot see from where you currently are is that you are going through a refinement process of your soul. There are parts of you that are asking to be alchemized, more fully and wholly understood, and then expressed outward into the physical world. What you cannot see from where you currently are is that the times in which you most feel like you are falling behind are often the very same ones in which you’re being given the opportunity to run forward, and truly get ahead. What you cannot see is that every adversity, heartache and failure carries with it the seed of an “equal or greater benefit,” as Napoleon Hill once said. And what you cannot see from where you currently are is that this moment, as chaotic and unpredictable and uncertain as it seems, will one day weave, seamlessly, into the fabric of your life, a key piece, upon which you’ll eventually reflect and think — that was devastatingly hard, and unimaginably extraordinary.
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5天前
What assets do you have right now that you are not taking advantage of? What answered prayers are going unacknowledged, what glimmers of progress are going unrecognized? What little sparks of interest, or possibility, are attempting to grasp your attention, and which heavier weights of fear and decided failure are bearing down upon them and extinguishing your consideration before they have even been really been seen? In what ways are you shortchanging your potential, in what ways have you taken yourself out of the arena before you were ever really in? In what ways are you guarding your heart by hurting it, as though you could safeguard by desensitizing, when your disproportionate focus upon the ways in which you might not be enough are scar tissuing them into your head enough to start fighting with your heart? In what ways are you already playing dead? If you could imagine that it was all taken away from you tomorrow, what would you most regret not being grateful for? Not seeing for what it was, while it still was there? In what ways are the doorways of opportunity outlining themselves along the closed walls of your perception, and what courage might you need to muster in order to realize that this very moment contains within it the the unlikely entryway to what you’ve been asking for all along? We live as though it’s all a given, an endurance game — that life is something that is only to be tolerated. As though we could shield ourselves from the hurt by not taking the risk when the only real risk is not giving it all, while we still could. Failing to live on the edge of our hope, our faith. Not doing what we wanted to do, while we could still do it. Not loving the people who were in front of us, while they were still there. Not being who we had the capacity to be, while we were still in the moment. No longer waiting for the breakthrough, but understanding that it is only a micro-shift that can set off a domino effect within our lives — that the biggest things begin with the smallest ones, and they’re all around us, quietly asking us to realize. To see.
4.88万 258
6天前
Notice what stays. Notice what survives your doubts, your fears. Notice what patterns itself into your life, notice what you keep reaching for. Notice what you crave, what you want; notice what persists, notice what lands and what deepens, even when you try to uproot, or turn away. And if you discover the most constant undercurrent of your life to be fear, then perhaps that is the shadow side of a light that is asking to be seen. If what you discover to be most constant is the nagging, gnawing feeling that you are meant for more, or different, or that you are not embodying all that you have wanted to be, then maybe that sense is really a message. A knowing that you have not yet come to accept. Our lives are composed of the consistencies, both the peaks and the valleys. These are the things we are meant to reach for and grow through. These are our tasks, and our assignments. These are our destinies, our hopes for ourselves, half-formed, and asking to be completed. What we are meant for are the things that feel most true, most real. The things that have tangibility to them, the things that make us come alive and ask for more, and more. They are not meant for us in the sense of a pre-determination, as though we have no hand on the steering wheel of the ship. Rather, they are the lighthouses, the sirens and signals, guiding us toward the right shore. The place at which there is the most to be found, and had. The arena in which the rest of our lives will unfold. You are not lost, you are in hiding — maybe, right now, even from yourself. Once you have tried on every kind of person you might want to be, you will find yourself exhaled back into the truth that’s been within you from the very start. In your hands, at the very same time, will be the tools you needed to build that person into their fullest form. You cannot lose what is truly meant for you — it will always return, more fully actualized than it was before. It is what we always come back to that is home to our hearts. 
It is where we find ourselves consistently pulled that the next chapter of our lives is often waiting to begin.
4.67万 286
8天前
Not knowing what is next often indicates you’re embarking upon a more authentic path — no longer unconsciously going through the motions, you are now deciding who you want to be, and choosing where you want to go. The willingness to stop holding onto what is safe if it’s not also right indicates that you have started to uncover your own self-security within. The choice to prioritize how you feel over what other people think means that you are learning to value your own opinions, your own mental health, your own intuition — that you are finally learning to take care of yourself as much as you take care of all those around you. What sometimes looks on the outside as a setback, quieting, or loss is only a failure to the ego. The world will tell you that the longevity of a relationship is equivalent to the success of it, while the heart will tell you when your time together is complete. The world will tell you that a particular type of profession is equivalent to certain success, while the heart will tell you what you’re really meant to do, where you’re actually meant to be investing your time and life. The world will tell you that steadiness is the equivalent to strength, but the heart will tell you that it is the courage to feel, to process, to no longer hide or deny or run — is most indicative of character. Breakdowns contain within them the potential of our breakthroughs. In the same way a star must first implode before it goes supernova, we, too, often experience the absolute greatest growth when our paths and projections forward are disrupted and we are left with nothing but a blank slate upon which to build a new life. It is only within those unknowns that we are finally able to find our own truths. What we consider to be the ends are very often the beginnings. What we consider to be the lows are very often the opportunities for our greatest pivots, and change. What we consider to be our losses very often turn into our greatest and most profound gains. This thread is from my book ‘When You’re Ready, This Is How You Heal.’ You can find it, as well as my other books, through the link in my bio. Sending you all love, always. 🤍
7.04万 652
10天前
Growth is what happens when the selves we once were reach a threshold where they can no longer carry us forward, and in their place, new and truer selves must emerge, and form. When we effortlessly adapt, the process feels easy. When the old parts of ourselves that were constructed in response to fear and trauma resist their own alchemy, what rises within us is this sense of panic and disarray, and if we are not careful, it is the very moment where we are most at risk of adopting the most limiting beliefs of all: that what is most familiar to us is most correct for us; that who we have been is who we will always be. It is less important to ask “Who am I?” than it is to ask: “Who would I like to be?” Who you think you are is very often just who you’ve had to be. In some ways, that’s the truth of all of us — a patchwork of everyone and everything we’ve known, and loved, seen, and done. But we are also amendable, and as much as the outside world has nurtured our sense of truth, so can our internal ones. We are, in larger ways than not, of our own making. That is the most empowering notion, and also, the most terrifying. There is no more defaulting in this acceptance. There is no more looking around and blaming, or holding on. There is only the choice of whether we will hurt to stay as we’ve been, or hurt to become who we might be. There is no workaround for discomfort, the shadows are rendered by the light. What we get to decide is what we’re going to endure for. What our greater intention will be. What we are going to let ourselves get used to. What we are going to reorient our comfort zones around so often and so honestly that in time, we become known to the world as we only ever once imagined ourselves to be. Growth is when we let go of the known parts of ourselves — the accepted, the understood, the comfortable parts — in favor of building new ones. Parts that give us the inner sense of openness to love where we were once closed, respond where we once only reacted, choose where we once felt it was chosen for us, and become a kind of person that only once seemed viable in our wildest dreams.
2.32万 208
15天前
Real change is something that happens on the fringe of your life. It’s the tiny glimmers that peer through and reach you, unexpectedly. The small moments where you think of just one more thing you could try. Fate is often stumbled upon. The pieces pull together in ways that are often so quiet, so unassuming, in the heat of your fear, you can look right past them. You may know at the deepest level that you are meant for something more, or different, and yet don’t recognize that the journey of a hundred miles is composed of steps — small steps that are insignificant until they are taken consistently. These little things grow to become something bigger than the sum of their parts. Within your process, you rediscover your confidence, your motivation. The bigger picture begins to cohere itself, and once again, you have something to believe in, to fight for, to hold onto. You realize, slowly but surely, that the fork in the road was a matter of you not knowing how to engage with the life you have found yourself in, and learning to do so is the character development required to be able to immerse yourself in it completely. If you attempt to seek the greater purpose or impetus that this unlikely moment may be acting as, you will always find it. And you will find it not because it is always easily or inevitably there, but because that is what the human spirit does — it finds, it makes. And while your dead-end might seem like a road in which you were unceremoniously left at the end of, it’s more the result of a world that slowly taught you to deny the wiring in your brain that seeks to form connection, that recognizes opportunity, and acts. You have only ever been asked to do what you can with what you have, and what you have is exactly what you need, even in the lack, even in the blank spaces. What is not there, or has not been; what has left or has not seemingly come as easily as you imagined it would, is also offering a sort of framing, a contrast, a necessity. The most unlikely moments often contain within them a piece of yourself you have spent a lifetime looking for. Find it. Carry it with you toward your next horizon.
8.26万 302
18天前
Though we may turn our roads to walk most closely with those who are tied deeply to our hearts, though we may intersect and collide and learn from others over the years, and though we may only ever know a few instances of complete, physical aloneness in our lifetimes, the truth is that our inner worlds are a place where there is only a voice of one. It is that voice narrating everything, and the essence of that narration dictates our experience. The level of its awareness determines not what we see, but how we see it. When we take time to adjust the way we perceive from that level, we actually change the moment we meet. We adjust what options we see, what we can create, what we are able to do. The idea that you might take your quiet hours to work on that self is not a throwaway option or a consolation prize for not being able to participate in external love the way you might want. It’s a lesson on ground zero of what it is to be human. You will wake up with yourself every day, and put yourself to sleep every night. You will be left with yourself when everyone around you goes to work and to school and grows up and moves on and once again, it is you and you. You will guide yourself through every heartache, every loss. You will also get to cherish every victory, every success, every resounding win. You are the undercurrent of your entire life experience, the most common denominator. The arena in which you have full and total control is that of yourself. You cannot control every passing thought or feeling that arises or experience that happens around you or to you, but you decide what you do, regardless of how you feel, or have been made to feel. And so that place becomes the most critical, the most potentially world-altering. It’s the only thing you can actually, fully assert your will upon and over, and so it is funny to consider that it’s the very same place that most people avoid. We spend eternity gazing outward and identifying all that’s wrong, but nothing too much changes, because there is little relief in realizing — perhaps my purpose is something far more difficult. Perhaps my offering must begin with me.
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27天前